Love Starts Here

If you tried us before, try us again because we've only gotten better!

For 14 years, ButchFemmeMatchmaker has remained the only dating resource dedicated exclusively to "just your type". And it's free to join! We understand the Butch-Femme dance, and we know all the steps. With a completely new kickass dating engine and a clean, unrivaled database of over 35,000 Butch and Femme members, your search for love starts right here.

Although a handful of dating sites may advertise to the Butch-Femme community, when weeding through those other overnight "affliate" sites (like TangoWire), you'll find most aren't even GLBT-based, and "butch" or "femme" is not even an option on your profile or when searching. At ButchFemmeMatchmaker, we are all about turning lonely Butches and Femmes into blissed out couples. Helping you cut right to the chase is our specialty!

We take great pride in thousands and thousands of successful relationships, matches and marriages we’ve helped put together over the last decade and a half. With new management and a complete rebuild of our entire site, we've rediscovered our passionate commitment for making a difference in our community. We've brought a new support team onboard and we plan to dedicate the next decade to continued improvements of our resources and our customer service. It’s our goal to make sure your experience on ButchFemmeMatchmaker is positive, flirty, and fun, and to help you discover the most satisfying relationship you’ve ever had.

In the end, we believe in putting more love into this world. Everyone deserves to love and be loved, and we look forward to creating thousands of more success stories. Why not let us help you start your journey toward true love?


Our Legacy & Our Rebirth

Launched as a pioneer in the online dating industry in April of 1996, ButchFemmeMatchmaker began by posting all the profiles as simple HTML every night, and blind-copying emails between members. Over the years, we have learned so much. We recently updated to a sexy new state-of-the-art matchmaking engine, customized exclusively for our unique community. Today ButchFemmeMatchmaker services 24 countries and hosts more members than the entire population of Atlantic City or Biloxi! It's no wonder everyone in the Butch-Femme tribe knows a happy couple or two who met right here!


What We Do

Our mission is simple: to help single Butches and Femmes find the kind of relationship they’re looking for. It's disheartening to read ad after ad saying "no butches" or "feminine seeking same". We are solely dedicated to helping you find that someone special who is looking for you.


How It Works

At, we give singles the opportunity to express themselves through free customizable profiles and various essay sections. Profiles may include up to 10 photos, as well as selected preferences regarding the person they’re searching for. With the click of a mouse, members can instantly see photos and videos and read about potential matches in their area, and even search by zip code. also understands the importance of privacy and integrity. All communication between members on happens through an “anonymous” email network. The names and contact information of all our members are kept confidential until the member personally decides to share the information with a potential match. And to help ensure the integrity of our community resources, every profile and photo is screened daily by our Customer Care team for appropriateness before it’s posted to the site. If you decide to try a premium subscription, you'll find we're far more economical than any other major queer dating portal. And we listen to our members! If you can think of a way we could make better, please contact us. Also, if you manage a Butch-Femme themed online community, we are open to share our resources and welcome partners through our affiliate program.

It's about the love!